We’ve all been there. It’s early January. Payday is a looong old way away and everyone’s skint. The weather’s rubbish. All the Christmas decorations have come down leaving everywhere looking sad and bare. And not forgetting it’s back to work time too leaving Christmas and new year festivities a now distant memory. Boo.
So what happens next? An onslaught of emails, magazine articles, posters, websites screaming out ‘NEW YEAR NEW YOU!’
If we weren’t feeling sorry enough for ourselves already, we now get told that we are not good enough and need to start again.
Go running / go to the gym and eat more healthily (even though you’re broke, it’s freezing and your house is full of chocolate), get a new beauty regime, new hair and travel more (but start saving more money too), take on a new hobby, socialise more (but drink less alcohol), have a more active love life (but get more sleep), push to progress in that career – and don’t forget to reduce those stress levels!
It all starts to sound like Radiohead’s ‘Fitter, Happier’.
What’s worst is the wording. A new you. A whole brand new you, just chuck yourself in the bin and start all over again, because really, what’s worth keeping about the old you? Nothing at all!
Well you know what?
Simply Be says NO to ‘New Year New You’
Simply Be says: “out with the old and in with the new is for wardrobes not for women.”
You don’t need to become a whole different person because you’ve run out of pages on your 2014 calendar.
You are awesome as you are.
Just take a little minute to think about all the things you have done. YOU ROCK!
New year can be a great time to refocus on what you want to achieve for the year ahead. But also to look back on how far you’ve come. It’s great to have goals, whether it’s health, career, hobbies, whatever. But don’t be made to feel like you’re not good enough if you’re not doing it all.
You can’t do everything. You just can’t. There are only so many hours in the day, and so much energy you have to give. So don’t try to do what you can’t realistically maintain. And if you do try – please don’t beat yourself up if you can’t keep it going, it doesn’t make you a failure. Nobody is perfect and not being perfect is just fine! It’s pressure we, as women, put on ourselves. So try being a friend to yourself instead of your own harshest slave driver.
If you want to make some resolutions this January, great! But focus on what will genuinely make your life better, rather than the need to try and conform to some ideal. If you want to make changes, think of them as another step in the awesome evolution of you; small changes on top of everything you have already achieved and become – not a whole new you.
Got good intentions but really can’t face it this January? Why take a month or two to just get used to being back at work etc and think about spring time to get started? January may be a new calendar year but it’s still fully fledged winter – while spring is a time for new growth and new beginnings.
Overwhelmingly for women ‘New Year, New You’ is about losing weight. If you want to go for it – go for it. But let’s remember:
1) You are still you whatever size you are. Losing weight does not make you a new person. Your size does not make you who you are.
2) If there are things in your life making you unhappy then they will still make you unhappy whatever your size.
So there you have it.
We’re not saying you shouldn’t set goals or get fitter this 2015.
We’re just saying - don’t let them make you feel you’re not good enough.
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